The question all of us introverts have surely heard far too many times. “Why are you so quiet?” This question can come in many forms, including but not limited to: “Is there anything wrong?” “Are you mad at me?” “Are you bored?” “Why don’t you speak up once in a while?”
The truth: I’m a quiet person. It’s ingrained in my DNA, and I can’t change it. I tried for years to change, thinking that because so many people commented on my silence it must be weird for me to be quiet all the time. But when I attempted to be talkative and outgoing I got grumpy. Really grumpy. People began asking what they did to offend me or why I was so upset all the time, which wasn’t any better than people asking why I was so quiet all the time.
As an introvert, I think much more than I speak. If I say two words I have another two hundred running through my head. My mind is always on, even if I look bored or moody. And I very rarely say the first thing that comes to mind, because I know that if I say something stupid I will stew over it for the next eight years. So I think it through before I speak, which usually means I don’t talk very often. You can’t rush genius, you know.
Quick public service announcement to all the extroverts out there: we don’t ask you why you’re so loud, so don’t ask us why we’re so quiet.
My rant’s over, but I love reading a good vent! Comment away on your most frustrating “Why Are You So Quiet?” moments!