“Why Are You So Quiet?”

I choose option #4

I choose option #4

The question all of us introverts have surely heard far too many times. “Why are you so quiet?” This question can come in many forms, including but not limited to: “Is there anything wrong?” “Are you mad at me?” “Are you bored?” “Why don’t you speak up once in a while?”

The truth: I’m a quiet person. It’s ingrained in my DNA, and I can’t change it. I tried for years to change, thinking that because so many people commented on my silence it must be weird for me to be quiet all the time. But when I attempted to be talkative and outgoing I got grumpy. Really grumpy. People began asking what they did to offend me or why I was so upset all the time, which wasn’t any better than people asking why I was so quiet all the time.

As an introvert, I think much more than I speak. If I say two words I have another two hundred running through my head. My mind is always on, even if I look bored or moody. And I very rarely say the first thing that comes to mind, because I know that if I say something stupid I will stew over it for the next eight years. So I think it through before I speak, which usually means I don’t talk very often. You can’t rush genius, you know.

Quick public service announcement to all the extroverts out there: we don’t ask you why you’re so loud, so don’t ask us why we’re so quiet.

My rant’s over, but I love reading a good vent! Comment away on your most frustrating “Why Are You So Quiet?” moments!


3 thoughts on ““Why Are You So Quiet?”

  1. Iris says:

    I was at a wedding a few weeks ago, and some old lady I might have been related to kept saying “Calm down over there; you’re being way too loud.” It was a funny joke the first time, I guess, but she kept repeating it every single time she saw me, which might have been seven times, and each time she was drunker, so it became louder and more obnoxious. She even continued it the next day… I’m glad I only see her twice a year.

    Sadly, that is just one of many, many examples, so yeah, I can relate to this post 100%.


    • Emma Rose says:

      Yikes, I know those kinds of people. It’s such a shame that just one of them can suck the fun out of any social gathering, and I’m sorry you had to experience that. I wish I could think of witty comebacks whenever people act that way, but all my wit comes to me weeks later in the shower. At least know that you’re not alone!

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    • Monica says:

      I’ve heard that joke too, so many times… Everyone who says it to me seems to think they’re the first one to think of it. It’s hard for me to think of a comeback other than a polite smile.

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