Can Shyness Be Cured? And Does It Really Need to Be?

introvertI’ve always been shy. I remember back in elementary school when I would dread the beginning of the year because there were new teachers, new students, new friends. That feeling never went away, and even today I still feel nervous and anxious when meeting strangers or being in unfamiliar situations. And try as I might, I can never shake that feeling. Continue reading


Shyness, Introversion, and Social Anxiety: Similar, But Not Really

introvertThese three terms are often used interchangeably, or at least are a little confusing (especially to people who don’t fit into any of the three categories). And although they all deal with a person’s desire for solitude, that’s pretty much where the similarities end. But first off, what do they all mean, exactly, and why is it important to know the differences between them? Continue reading

“Why Are You So Quiet?”

I choose option #4

I choose option #4

The question all of us introverts have surely heard far too many times. “Why are you so quiet?” This question can come in many forms, including but not limited to: “Is there anything wrong?” “Are you mad at me?” “Are you bored?” “Why don’t you speak up once in a while?”

The truth: I’m a quiet person. It’s ingrained in my DNA, and I can’t change it. I tried for years to change, thinking that because so many people commented on my silence it must be weird for me to be quiet all the time. But when I attempted to be talkative and outgoing I got grumpy. Really grumpy. People began asking what they did to offend me or why I was so upset all the time, which wasn’t any better than people asking why I was so quiet all the time. Continue reading